AegisReflector said:
Isn't it hard to have that kind of long distance relationship? I would go nuts. =P
Its not long distance right now. He's finishing up nuclear power school 30 minutes from where I live, so I get to see him pretty frequently (although his changing work schedule & the fact that I ALWAYS close at work, can make it hard to coordinate it).
But when he finishes nuke school (in about a month), then it will get hard. He'll get a month of leave (that's where the going to Wisconsin part comes in). Then he gets sent to his duty station which could be in Japan or San Diego (the 2 places he put on his "wishlist") or somewhere entirely different. I'm not 100% sure how it works from then on out but at some point (probably pretty soon after he finishes leave, at least that's what its been for his friends) he'd go out on a carrier. I believe he'd be at sea for 6 months.
Which will be really hard & thinking about it long enough can literally make me sick to my stomach. I don't even know how Japan would work. At least if it was San Diego or somewhere stateside, I could visit him (obviously not when he's on the carrier, but after) or even move to be closer to him if came to that. But I certainly can't afford to visit him in Japan often (maybe once max?). And that would be for 2 years I think. I mean if he really wants that, then I want him to go there. But it will suck. Someone told me everyone puts Japan on their wishlist so the odds aren't too high he'll go there, but he's done pretty well in nuke school & is/was in the top of his class so idk (he's been slipping a little lately).
I probably should know more about the details of it all, but I don't ask him about the specifics because I don't want to know for sure & have to deal with it right now. But I'm thinking tonight when he gets off he should know where he'll be stationed.
You'd think I'd be more prepared for this since my dad has been gone for like 80% of the last 10 years of my life (lived in Kansas & Indiana for a long time for army training & whatnot, did 18 months in Bosnia, 2 tours in Afghanistan & has lived in Germany for about 2 years) but I'm not. As much as I love my dad, its totally different when its someone you're dating.